The Emotional Bank Account

What’s an Emotional Bank Account? Imagine your emotions are all inside of a bank account. When you give your daughter a hug, it makes a deposit into her emotional bank account. When you hold a boundary with her, it’s like making a withdrawal. As long as you keep putting enough positive things into the account, […]

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Create A Lasting Connection With Your Children

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While writing this article my mind is replaying the words, “Tradition! Tradition!” from Fiddler on the Roof. In the musical, Tevye is referring to the typical roles of fathers, mothers, and children at that time and in that culture. Family roles represent just one of many areas impacted by traditions and rituals. In my own […]

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What Are the Symptoms of ADHD?

What Are the Symptoms of ADHD? By, Laurie Laird  Reference: mentalhealth.about.com/cs/familyresources/l/bladd.htm ADHD is not like a broken arm, or strep throat, it does not have clear physical signs that can be seen in an x-ray or a lab test. ADHD can only be identified by looking for certain characteristic behaviors and these behaviors vary from person […]

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Personal Growth: Eating an Elephant

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Neuropsychologists believe that an incremental approach to change tricks our brains into accepting giant, ambitious goals. When faced with the enormity of certain tasks, our primitive brain wants to fight or flee.

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Healing your Family: A Little Every Day

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Many of the families I’ve worked with feel that they have lost everything. They are financially tapped out. Their basic assumptions about family, love, success, and life have been turned upside down. They feel betrayed and embarrassed and sad and angry. How does a family rebuild in the wake of trauma, or addiction, or mental illness, or betrayal, or loss? A little bit every day. If you can do that, you can find your way forward a step at a time. You can heal. You can hope.

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Therapy as Funny Business

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Humor during individual and group therapy—whether from the therapist or the client—can lighten a mood, break a pattern, improve sharing, create a sense of perspective, generate a feeling of well-bring and hope, and provide an effective delivery system for difficult feedback. Family systems therapists will sometimes encourage family members to consciously employ a form of humor to interrupt entrenched relational patterns.

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Parent to Parent: Placing your Teen in Treatment

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If you’re like us, you are used to at least maintaining the illusion of control in most parts of your life. Also if you’re like us, your teenager has done a lot to destroy that illusion! It’s easy to make up for those feelings of powerlessness by trying to micromanage her treatment process and the treatment team from a distance. We did that for about the first three months. It doesn’t help and it will exhaust you. Once we finally let go and got out of the way, the healing process really began—about three months behind schedule!

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Healing The Family System: Who Should Be Involved

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Since the family is a dynamic system comprised of deeply interdependent members, the more members who participate in treatment the better. In most cases this is true regardless of their past role in the family. But there are exceptions.

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Has a Relationship Helped your Family Heal?

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Do you have a story of how a key relationship made a critical difference in you or your family’s journey toward healing? A relative? A friend? A therapist? Even a stranger? If so, we would love to hear about it.

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Treatment Aftercare–The Value of Extended Family

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Regardless of whether you tap your own family members or engage the support of neighbors and friends, a consistent community of trusted adults can be a critical part of your child’s healing after treatment. Here are some tips for building up a strong support system of family members and/or friends and neighbors.

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