Why Parents Need to Let Their Children Fail

Posted by Matt Bartlett | Motivation, Tips for Families | failure parenting Success 0 Comments

At New Haven, we often ask our students, “What would you try if you knew you could not fail?” This question helps teens see what is possible without fear, but it also contributes to the mindset that failure is bad.  We should be asking, “What would you try if you knew that you will fail […]

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Emptying the Nest

Posted by New Haven Residential Treatment Center | Tips for Families | parenting 0 Comments

A popular metaphor for describing the transition from adolescence to adulthood is that of the eagle pushing her young forcibly and abruptly out of the nest. The falling eaglet either has a terror-induced epiphany – “hey, I’m an eagle, I can fly!” – or hits the ground and stays there. In certain respects, this is […]

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Anxiety in Teens

Posted by Nevin Alderman | Anxiety, Therapeutic/Clinical | anxiety parenting Puberty teens 0 Comments

The Shock of Puberty One of the most anxiety-provoking times of life for children and their parents occurs when the child reaches puberty. Puberty is a confusing hormonal, neurological, and social event in which life is turned upside down and everything, it seems, changes all at once. During puberty, teenagers have the daunting task of separating […]

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The New Haven Alumni Association

The New Haven Alumni Association exists to provide connection, support, and advocacy on behalf of New Haven Families.   The Association seeks to mentor families in transition; create engaging local and regional alumni events; write and share interesting publications; and support New Haven’s mission.   Alumni parents help design and support two annual, Alumni weekends.  […]

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Parent to Parent: Placing your Teen in Treatment

Posted by New Haven Residential Treatment Center | Admissions, Tips for Families, Treatment 101 | adolescent adolescent treatment family parenting treatment troubled teen 0 Comments

If you’re like us, you are used to at least maintaining the illusion of control in most parts of your life. Also if you’re like us, your teenager has done a lot to destroy that illusion! It’s easy to make up for those feelings of powerlessness by trying to micromanage her treatment process and the treatment team from a distance. We did that for about the first three months. It doesn’t help and it will exhaust you. Once we finally let go and got out of the way, the healing process really began—about three months behind schedule!

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Treatment Aftercare–The Value of Extended Family

Posted by New Haven Residential Treatment Center | Tips for Families, Treatment 101 | aftercare family parenting treatment 0 Comments

Regardless of whether you tap your own family members or engage the support of neighbors and friends, a consistent community of trusted adults can be a critical part of your child’s healing after treatment. Here are some tips for building up a strong support system of family members and/or friends and neighbors.

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Parenting through Sexual Trauma

Posted by New Haven Residential Treatment Center | Sexual Promiscuity, Tips for Families, Trauma & PTSD | abuse disclosure parenting promiscuity sexual activity 0 Comments

The key contribution parents can make when their child is in treatment is to provide understanding and support, even as they work through their own painful emotions. This is a challenge, of course, and means that parents must engage their own therapeutic work in order to be able to help their daughter.

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Parenting a Trauma Victim

Posted by New Haven Residential Treatment Center | Tips for Families, Trauma & PTSD | parenting post traumatic stress disorder PTSD trauma 0 Comments

When an adolescent experiences symptoms of post-traumatic stress, it’s not unusual for her parents to feel confused and suspicious. That’s because it’s incredibly painful for a parent to know that their child has been so deeply wounded. In fact, it can be so difficult to process a child’s trauma that the parent may unwittingly minimize and deny—it’s just too much to take in.

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Everyday Family Wellness: Volunteering

Posted by New Haven Residential Treatment Center | Tips for Families | adolescent adolescent treatment family parenting teen teens 0 Comments

While volunteering to help others may not seem like a sophisticated mental-health technique, those who engage in community service tend to weigh less, have fewer health problems, and report a higher measure of subjective happiness than those who don’t.

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Everyday Family Wellness: Meals Together

Posted by New Haven Residential Treatment Center | Tips for Families | adolescents family mental health parenting parenting tips teen teens troubled teen 0 Comments

Rather than suddenly corralling the family for seven nights of regimented dining, though, ease into it if it’s not already a habit. One or two nights a week is a great start. Make it fun by cooking something everyone will like (or even ordering in) and try to make dinner time fit everyone’s schedule to the extent you can. This approach is more likely to leave your family wanting more, rather than less, of this healthy family habit.

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