{"id":5011,"date":"2016-06-13T14:49:38","date_gmt":"2016-06-13T20:49:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/newhavenrtc786.e.wpstage.net\/?p=5011"},"modified":"2024-03-06T11:30:32","modified_gmt":"2024-03-06T18:30:32","slug":"emotional-bank-account","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.newhavenrtc.com\/parenting-teens\/emotional-bank-account\/","title":{"rendered":"The Emotional Bank Account"},"content":{"rendered":"
Imagine your emotions are all inside of a bank account. When you give your daughter a hug, it makes a deposit into her emotional bank account. When you hold a boundary with her, it\u2019s like making a withdrawal. As long as you keep putting enough positive things into the account, you can have firm rules and still \u201cstay in the black\u201d so to speak.<\/p>\n
Now imagine that your teenager is being disrespectful all the time. She\u2019s breaking curfew, sneaking out, and shouting at her siblings. It seems like she isn\u2019t even giving you a chance to make a positive emotional deposit, and suddenly your relationship has a \u201cnegative balance.\u201d How on earth do you show her love and care when she seems to be doing everything she can to push you away and make you angry?<\/p>\n
Here are some recommended ways to \u201cmake a deposit\u201d with your teen, even when they are pushing you away.<\/p>\n
At this point, many parents are frustrated and say, \u201cIf I\u2019m nice after they break a rule, how on earth with they learn? Isn\u2019t that letting them walk all over me?\u201d If that\u2019s what you\u2019re thinking here are a few principles that may help you grasp WHY these positive \u201cemotional bank deposits\u201d work:<\/p>\n
By following these guidelines and remembering to \u201cstay in the black\u201d with your kids, your relationships will get deeper! It\u2019s hard work, but you can create strong and healthy connections<\/a> with your kids, and things will get better.<\/p>\n —<\/p>\n By Jessica Jones, Residential Director at the Hobble Creek Campus of New Haven Residential Treatment Center<\/a><\/p>\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" What\u2019s an Emotional Bank Account? Imagine your emotions are all inside of a bank account. When you give your daughter a hug, it makes a deposit into her emotional bank …<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":33,"featured_media":5013,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[22],"tags":[289,54,262],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newhavenrtc.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5011"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newhavenrtc.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newhavenrtc.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newhavenrtc.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/33"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newhavenrtc.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5011"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/www.newhavenrtc.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5011\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":18610,"href":"https:\/\/www.newhavenrtc.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5011\/revisions\/18610"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newhavenrtc.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/5013"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newhavenrtc.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5011"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newhavenrtc.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5011"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newhavenrtc.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5011"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}